Every boy gets a crush on a girl someday. This often happens in elementary school and you might get a few different crushes until you become a teenager. Or you stick with the same crush the whole time. It depends on the circumstances. Sometimes you get your first girlfriend, and you have a kind of puppy love, which is ok and nice to start with. After that you become more mature and may eventually fall in love, like in the novels and dramatic plays by Shakespeare. Some people never find anyone special and never fall in love, which is a shame, because everybody should love someone deeply at some point in their life. That’s my philosophy anyway. For me I had one love crush on a girl when I was 9-11 years old. I had a girlfriend briefly when I was 15 and that was a kind of novice puppy love.
My first real feelings of love came to me at 18 years old. I had some girlfriends before that but they were more a status and horny phase, rather than love. I met a girl a bit younger than me, and I felt deep feeling towards her and it seemed like love, and looking back I think it was love. That affair lasted a few months. Then at 19 I fell for a free spirit girl, but it was love from a far. We spoke and everything, but at that time I had started writing poetry and she became my muse for writing. After going through my attic I found old book with poetry that I had written, and I found over 30 poems about her and my deep feelings for her. I think I was in love with the idea of her and me in some romantic world and delusion, that fit my need for writing and feeling pain of love lost, that sort of thing. At 20 I fell in love again and really liked this girl, but she had a good boyfriend and it was not meant to be. She was cool and pretty, and I could not help myself. Then at 21, I met a girl in passing that I did not think about much, as she had duped my good to a dance class. That was funny because he was gifted in other ways than dancing. You could just as well ask a giraffe to breakdance. She was also studying law at University and I had noticed her sort of, but not really. For some reason we started talking because she knew my friend, and because we all studied the whole day, every day, we were around each other all the time. We got to talking at certain break times from studying, and she took walks also and started to invite me along. The conversations were not romantic and there were no sparks between us, and that was not the point. I asked he what she wanted in a man, and she came out with remarkable requirements, like that he should be tall, dark hair, handsome, speak languages, play the violin and some other outlandish stuff. I laughed when she told me. She asked me back, what I wanted in a woman. I said I wanted a feminine lady, but that I was not looking for a girlfriend, but would like to have several 6 week love affairs. She laughed back and we enjoyed our conversations. One day she told me that she wanted to hook me up with a good friend of hers. I was fine with it. The plan was that we would all go the movie “A scent of a woman” together, which sounded like a good plan. When it came time for the movie her friend backed out, because she took another shift at work. So what happened is, that we two went to the movie, without her friend. It so happened that at that movie theater I saw my former girlfriend, from when I was 18 years old, standing outside the theater with another dude, which was fine. Funny how stuff happens. Well, we saw the movie together and on the way back I was dropping her off at her place, when she asked me to come up to see her home. I did just that and we sat down on her couch, and one thing led to another. She became my girlfriend, then my fiancé and eventually my wife. We are still married and have two boys together. Love is grand, if you do it right.
